Oh positive. She seems all candy and harmless. And there’s a facet of her that’s.
However then, there’s one other facet, that’s extra sinister. Darker. Scarier. It’s known as the terrible fours. And why the hell isn’t anybody speaking about it?
We hear about the so-called terrible twos all the time. Many mother and father declare age three is even worse. However I’m right here to argue that age Four is the absolute worst. THE WORST. Worse than the worst. Right here’s why:
- When she doesn’t get her approach, watch the hell out. A 2-year-old’s mood tantrums have gotten nothing on what she will unleash. As a result of now she’s greater, and smarter, and higher at manipulating us to present her what she needs. So whereas she’s on the ground, screaming like she’s being attacked by a shark, and flailing round with the energy of a world-class wrestler, she’s laying out a well-reasoned argument about why no matter occurred is unfair, and why her approach ought to prevail.
- She fights me on every part. No, actually. All the pieces. From what socks to placed on, to what’s for snack, to what present she will watch, to what time she ought to go to mattress, rise up, what errands we’re operating, getting in the tub, what cup she’s going to have her juice in, if she’s going to have juice, how she’s going to put on her hair, what e-book we’re going to learn, when and the place we’ll learn it, going to the park, leaving the park. The listing goes on and on. I imply, mainly, every part is a wrestle, from the second she opens her eyes in the morning, to when, lastly, she’s resting her head on the pillow at night time, exhausted from a day of battling the world.
- Her degree of anger is up there with Joe Pesci. I imply, not in actual life, however the characters he performs. I suppose he may very well be mad in actual life, however I’ve no thought. The purpose is, she will get soooo offended, I don’t know whether or not to run and conceal, or snigger, as a result of it’s kinda cute. I’m speaking growling, stomping her toes, and scrunching her little face up, because it will get purple, and she or he grits her enamel, and her eyes slim. No matter it’s that she feels so pissed off by, whether or not it’s that she will’t have extra fruit snacks, or one of her sisters gained’t commerce Beanie Boos along with her, or I need her to take a seat on the potty, is on the degree of an grownup discovering out they’ve fired from their job for a very unjust cause. Or that their home is being foreclosed on despite the fact that they by no means missed a fee. Or that their whole life-savings was worn out resulting from a pc error.
It’s price mentioning that after a current late being pregnant loss, I’m in a spot the place I’m not letting my Four-year-old’s out-of-control habits get to me as a lot as it’d in any other case. As a result of I’m simply so darn blissful to have her right here, the place I can maintain her, and love on her, even when she’s kicking and screaming, and railing in opposition to life.
Had I not skilled this terrible tragedy, which gave me such a unique perspective on what to let weigh me down, I believe the terrible fours would crush me. After which again over me dump-truck type, and floor me into the ground like a bug underneath a sneaker.
Not that this isn’t a difficult section! I imply, despite the fact that my daughter simply turned Four the different day, I’m already counting down to five!
Pictures by Melissa Willets