Let’s face it, there are positively benefits to being the first-born youngster: Having a comparatively larger IQ, getting your mother and father’ undivided consideration till siblings come alongside, and bossing round youthful brothers and sister are just some. Nevertheless, one drawback of being the oldest is we’re principally guinea pigs.
Since our mother and father had no thought what they have been doing after we got here alongside, their strategy wasn’t very refined — making our childhood one huge trial-and-error experiment.
Moms anticipating their second, third, fourth, or extra kids have been discussing this very matter within the BabyCenter Neighborhood. Now that they’ve a bit of expertise beneath their belts, what is going to they be doing differently this time round? Right here are some things they hope to change.
No extra co-sleeping
One mother discovered the laborious means that co-sleeping isn’t perfect for her household. As a result of she needs to prioritize her personal sleep this time, she received’t be making the identical mistake along with her fourth child. “My 2yo and 4yo nonetheless give me issues at night time about wanting to sleep with me,” she wrote. “I nonetheless plan on breastfeeding however don’t want to co-sleep anymore.”
Attempt to get pleasure from being pregnant extra
One other mother hopes to calm down and truly get pleasure from her being pregnant this time round. “I’m resolving this being pregnant not to fear a lot! With my daughter I went above and past the being pregnant guidelines. I used to be terrified to eat at eating places and I drove everybody loopy. This time I’m attempting to be widespread sense concerning the guidelines and simply benefit from the being pregnant, as a result of if all of it works out (praying it does!) this can be our final youngster.”
Assist child develop higher sleep habits
One more mama hopes to prepare her child to be a greater sleeper from the get-go. “I can even strive to get my new child used to falling asleep with out me holding him/her. LO (baby) is horrible at falling asleep, particularly for naps,” she wrote. “I’m not going to have time to spend hours rocking child to sleep whereas caring for a toddler.”
Be extra dedicated to breastfeeding
“I tried to final time, however I don’t assume I used to be actually dedicated & beginning giving child the bottle earlier than I even left the hospital,” the mother wrote. “I’m additionally interested by fabric diapering this time, however that’s nonetheless up within the air. Child sporting is one other factor I want to do extra of with this child, even round the home so I can multitask extra & nonetheless have child shut.”
Skip breastfeeding, ditch the stroller & chill
One more mama has an inventory of areas she hopes to enhance upon. “I received’t be breastfeeding in any respect,” she wrote. “I’ll use a stroller as an alternative of simply carrying child in my arms on walks. I’ll be much less freaked out concerning the first haircut. I’m going to chill waaaaaay out on the delivery plan.”
Kegels & meal prep
Having been by means of the postpartum time as soon as earlier than, this mother already is aware of what she’ll do differently. “Kegels. Omg I’d love to not pee myself each time I cough/sneeze/giggle/run,” she wrote. “I can even hopefully meal prep extra bc cooking with a new child and different children sucks.”
Skip the toddler seat
One other mother has only one factor she’ll change along with her subsequent child. “We plan to go straight to convertible automobile seat — toddler automobile seats are simply an additional expense and much too heavy to lug round when you’re additionally holding a toddler’s hand,” she wrote.
The underside line: Each expertise is completely different. What works for one household won’t be the reply for an additional, and that’s okay. As a result of all of us are in the identical boat, determining this entire parenting factor as we go.
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