“Damnit!” I distinctly recall my dad yelling, one Halloween evening. Mumbling curse phrases beneath his breath he huffed up the hill again to our home. Then he grumbled: “Youngsters!”
Some would possibly assume leaving a large bowl of sweet on the porch with an indication inviting trick-or-treaters to take two items was asking for bother, however all I knew was my dad was pissed and “youngsters” had been to blame.
The incident appears to be a part of why I’ve muddled emotions about getting older and trick-or-treating. It wasn’t too large of a deal to me the primary 12 months I ended going, however now I’m a mother or father of a — gasp — 13-year-old. I typically don’t like to make waves or annoy my neighbors, however 13 simply isn’t turning out to appear and feel like fairly as old because it sounds.
I insisted my son maintain my hand up and down every darkish driveway the primary time he went trick-or-treating. He was 2, and I cherished it. I grinned every time he used his manners and beamed at every remark about how cute he was.
It was straightforward to trick-or-treat that Halloween, or for the subsequent decade, however issues have modified. He doesn’t mix.
Not solely have his costume selections have developed from cute little cowboy to beard-clad hipster, he’s tall. There’s no approach he received’t stand out as one of many eldest in a avenue stuffed with little youngsters, or tower over a lot of the little old girls answering their doorways. His look screams teen.
However as a younger teen, I really feel like he’s lastly prepared to hit the neighborhood with a gaggle of pals somewhat than his dad and mom. That’s a giant milestone, and I’d really feel terrible if I attempted to speak him out of going.
So this 12 months he’ll go trick-or-treating after a stern speak about etiquette and respect. I’ll be at dwelling answering our personal door, all of the whereas crossing my fingers some indignant dad doesn’t discover a purpose to curse the pack of youngsters my boy will be working with.
I be ok with this 12 months. (I believe.)
However what about subsequent 12 months of the one after? Fourteen and 15 look like completely different ballgames when it comes to going door-to-door. Is there a approach to know when your child is too old to take part?
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