After 4 pregnancies, you’d have thought I’d heard each annoying, insulting pregnancy comment on the market.
“You’re getting so huge!”
“You’re nonetheless pregnant?”
“I really feel such as you’ve been pregnant ceaselessly!”
“Are there infants in your boobs?” (To be truthful, my toddler mentioned this)
However THIS insulting pregnancy comment topped ‘em all. Significantly, I by no means noticed it coming, as a result of I didn’t notice somebody would possibly truly say it.
I used to be pushing my children on the swings at a neighborhood park when a mother I do know walked by and mentioned…anticipate it…
“Wow, you actually appear to be you’re due!”
Okay. So let’s begin with the truth that I’m not even six months pregnant but. And I not at all “appear to be I’m due.”
Or at the least I don’t assume so.
Even so, who says that to a pregnant girl? I feel the look on my face mentioned as a lot, so this mother shortly clarified, “No, I imply, you appear to be you’re due; such as you’re anticipating. I couldn’t inform earlier than however now I can.”
After she amended her earlier assertion, I can’t apologize that my facial features didn’t change a lot. I form of glared at her, not realizing what else to do.
I appear to be I’m due? Like, prepared to pop? Like, big? Freakish? An overreaction, I do know. Blame it on the pregnancy hormones.
I feel the underside line is that everybody ought to assume earlier than they comment on a pregnant girl’s physique. Even when you assume it’s a praise, generally it received’t be acquired that approach.
And we pregnant girls are scary unpredictable with our feelings. So simply know that when you say something at all about how we glance, there’s a 50/50 likelihood we are going to take it the incorrect approach.
Generally, commenting on a girl’s look is like stepping onto a minefield, in that it’s typically advisable to keep away from it. Except you’re saying, “You’re the most lovely girl I’ve ever seen.” Or, “OMG, how can I look precisely such as you?” Or, “Your hair is what songs are written about.”
And in my case, I feel all I need to hear proper now could be, “Wow, pregnancy fits you.” Or, “You make pregnancy look good.” Or related. Or else, maintain your feedback to your self.